I really enjoy witnessing when things come full circle, especially an ironic full circle. I went on some dates with a man who I met while working out and we recently went on a break up hike. True story. So does that mean the couple that works out together breaks up while working out together? I suppose so. After the initial blow to my ego, I knew it was for the best because this man proudly proclaimed he’s selfish, which is exactly when I should have run myself instead of going for a run with him.
Maya Angelou says that when a man tells you who he is you should listen – the first time. Maya also goes on to explain that women choose to ignore it, then become dissatisfied with the same man who told you who he is from day 1, and that we really have no one to blame but ourselves for not listening. Upon reading this I wanted to slap my own self in the face for not listening for way too long over my last decade of relationships and thought it’s time to end my reign as Cleopatra: Queen of Denial.
Now, when I told Mr. Selfish that being selfish is not actually something you should boast about, and that I personally find that to be a deplorable quality he defended his use of the word explaining it has some positive traits. This conversation stuck in my craw for a while and although I could maybe ‘see’ some of those things he explained, it was his actual actions – or non -actions really- that spoke louder than words.
Thankfully, it was a short lived nomance (somewhat romantic but with no hope of future potential) which to me was huge progress on a personal level so excuse me while I nearly dislocate my shoulder patting myself on the back. He told me, he showed me, and I finally listened. I’d like to add that I took Maya Angelou’s words to heart so much that when we finished our walk I literally Forrest Gump style ran as fast as I could all the way back to my house just so if I ever have the good fortune of meeting Maya I can say I literally ran from him.
Of course back to the kitchen I go and thought that since I’ve been thinking so much about selfish it was apropos to make some shellfish. A nice comforting crab dip; which I unselfishly shared with my girlfriends – the beautiful, consummate givers that they are who came over to debrief on the dating debacle.
Selfish Shellfish Dip
I find mayonnaise to be as disgusting as selfishness so I used non-fat Greek yogurt for a bit of creaminess but it also can be left out. I served the dip with my own homemade tortilla chips.
½ cup non-fat Greek yogurt
4 tablespoons fresh lime juice
2 tablespoons chives, finely chopped
15 ounces fresh crabmeat (canned is ok, but what the salt)
3 tablespoons thinly sliced fresh basil
1 whole red jalapeno, finely chopped
Sea salt and fresh ground pepper to taste
Fresh basil leaves for garnish
In a serving bowl, mash the avocado with yogurt and 3 tablespoons of lime juice, season with salt and pepper then spread evenly on the bottom of the bowl to form the first layer. Make sure to drain any liquid from the crabmeat, then combine with jalapeno and remaining lime juice in separate bowl. Season with a little pepper, then spoon the mixture on top of the avocado mix. Top with a few slices of coarsely chopped basil, cover, and refrigerate until serving.