Friday’s Food for Thought: Get out the Way

Much like life’s cyclical patterns, I find there are common themes that arise everywhere from my own meal planning to random conversations with people I speak to. This week’s discussions brought up many questions: “Why am I not losing weight fast enough?” “Why am I so unmotivated?” “How can I make this relationship work?” “What do I need to do to change my circumstances?” The answer: Get yourself out of the way.
When you put the right foods in your body in the right amounts for you, you will maintain a healthy weight. When you allow the love and respect we all inherently possess to guide your interactions with another person, your relationship will thrive. When you follow your heart, your circumstances will undoubtedly change. When you listen to the amazingly fine-tuned vessel that is your body, that does its best every day to try to keep you alive at any expense, motivation won’t be an issue.
It seems all great in theory, but what happens to us when we attempt to go from point A to point B? We get in the way of ourselves through a series of self-sabotage. Let’s take weight gain as an example. You’re feeling sluggish, tired all the time, your pants are getting tighter, your cholesterol levels have risen, and your ‘you’- your being, your essence, yourshape soul, whatever you’d like to call it- intuitively tells you it’s time to start exercising.. You wake up the next morning determined to join a gym and then here comes you with your own made-up bullshit: I’m too out of shape to be at the gym. I’m too fat. I don’t have proper workout clothes, etc. etc. Then bam; mission is totally aborted and off to the freezer you go for some ice cream because “it’s hopeless.” You just got in your own way.
Albert Einstein said: “Everything is energy and that is all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” I’ve read those words 1,000 times as I’ve made it my morning mantra. Yet the truth is I can read it all I want but until I actually reconcile my desired reality with my current energy (by getting out of the way) I’ll be staying in the same place. We’ve all heard the phrases we are our own worst critics, worst enemies, and the like; but I finally understand it’s because what’s standing between points A and B is us. ‘Us’ standing firmly, immovably white-knuckling the doorframe like a kid trying to be pulled out of a candy store.
Tyrese Gibson, who wrote, How to Get out of Your Own Way, explains that the first step is to love yourself. I am all about self-love, but in the many enriching conversations this week I’ve discovered that it still points to a ‘to do’, this perpetual state in our society that we have to constantly be ‘doing’ something about it. I realize that somewhere at about point A and 1/2 is our psyche, and that’s where we stop. The love is already there, it’s always been there. We are born beings of pure love, unfortunately life comes in and our personal experiences push us further and further away from that love, the love that is our true being.
I have a very analytical mind, which never stops thinking. In fact, my brain is like a tennis ball in a dryer. Having gone through therapy I found myself in moments this week thinking that sometimes maybe I can acquire too much information. I now have these tools that yes, have helped me, but at moments are a hindrance and I put myself right back in my own way. I over analyze, which leads to stress, which leads to anxiety, which often ends in complacency. I need to do this, I need to do that; Frued-ing and Jung-ing the crap out of myself. Then I remembered that what therapy did was peel back the bullshit layers of my psychological onion so that I can meet my true self. Then lo and behold what actually brought me peace and productivity was stopping all the thought, being present, and allowing my true self to do her thing.
Christians say: “Give it up to God.” Buddhism explains that Nirvana comes from releasing ourselves of attachment and desire. Taoists give themselves over to the Tao, the natural state and flow of the universe. Whatever or whomever you place your faith in, it’s all essentially saying the same thing: Get out of the way. Just be. There is a greater power moving you through this life and it is most definitely not your brain.
The mantra I’ve settled on this week is one I’ve found myself singing and comes from none other than Ludacris. It goes a little something like this: Move, bitch. Get out the way, get out the way, get out the way.

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One Response to Friday’s Food for Thought: Get out the Way

  1. Eric says:

    Just stumbled across your blog post and have to say right on!
    As someone who also has a VERY analytical mind, which never stops thinking I often find I acquire too much information, much of which just gets in the way. I am working on finding the similar tools that can help me, but at moments are a hindrance and I put myself right back in my own way. I often over analyze, which leads to stress, which leads to anxiety, which often ends in complacency and all that other crap that gets in the way of being myself. In the past few months I have found myself finding more days than not when I was able to find that peace and productivity and stop “most: of the thought and be more present. As you say, “it’s all essentially saying the same thing: Get out of the way. Just be. There is a greater power moving you through this life and it is most definitely not your brain.”
    Thanks for the reminder to not give up and keep moving towards the path of oneself and then everything else will fall into place.

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